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Susie Mawhinney's avatar

It is a great strangeness for me to even think about my safety at night out here in the wilderness Louise, except, of course, for the wild boar there is nothing to make me fearful and thankfully they make such a noise it is generally easy to find a safe place to perch while they pass.

I wish I could say I have never had any experience of night predators in a city, I wish I could say women are as safe as men but they are not. I am not certain there is an answer to this either except there is safety in numbers, I was alone, had I not have been, I would not have been accosted.

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QQuest's avatar

“How often do men not feel safe walking alone on the street, day or night?”

I don’t know that there is a single definition of “feel safe” between women and men. Ie: no one scale that would allow a valid comparison. Generally, as a man, I don’t think about this at all, so I feel “safe”. But, women have greater constant awareness than men because there is more activity across the Corpus Callosum in females. Hence males are too one-hemisphere focused and may be somewhat ignorant to danger. This came to my attention one night when I walked over to the bank ATM in a strip mall. I was focused in my mind on a problem I was trying to work out and was approached by 4 guys half my age. The lead one asked if I had a “light”, which triggered my awareness that a robbery (or worse) was in play. That’s how ignorant of danger I was. I said “no” and for some reason decided to reach into my jacket pocket. The lead guy noticed that immediately and figured I was reaching for a gun I suppose. All that was in my pocket were my keys. But lesson learned and in the years since I guess I have avoided other problems. But, “feeling more safe”? This isn’t an immediate feeling in the male I think. More of a calculation.

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